The Holidays Are Here: What Newly Divorced Co-Parents Need to Know
The first holiday season after divorce or separation is often the hardest. Particularly if there are children involved, divorce will affect the holiday season for all of you — including changing many holiday traditions. Changes may mean not having your children at your family’s traditional annual gathering or waking up on Christmas morning without your […]
There’s A New Law Addressing Pet Custody in New York
New York State Governor Kathy Hochul signed the bill on Oct. 25, 2021 and, effective immediately, the new state law now requires the court to custody in the “best interest” of the pet. Whether the Court will use many of the same factors that are utilized in determining the best interest of a child to determine […]
What do I do if my co-parent and I do not agree on vaccinating our kids?
The CDC has approved, for emergency use, the Pfizer vaccine for children ages 5-11, which means more parents will be making decisions about vaccinating their children in this age group. Families began these conversations around their 16-year-old plus children, then younger teens, and now, the pool of those eligible has gotten considerably larger. Whether or […]
Overwhelmed By the Divorce Process? Create Your Own Divorce Advisory Board.
Take a deep breath and take a look around. You are not alone. Here’s how to get started putting together a team to help get you through this. Divorce can be one of the most stressful times of your life. Some liken the process of going through a divorce to getting over the death of a […]
New York Courts May Soon Be Raining Cats, Dogs and Perhaps Parakeets
The new state law raises many issues including what consideration should be given to the allocation of resources with respect to pet custody, when people are waiting months and sometimes years to have their child custody cases determined.
Trick or Treat Tips for Co-Parents
Did you know that the CDC has approved trick or treating for this year? If you have not done so already, now is the time to communicate with your co-parent to ensure you are on the same page about Halloween plans with the children. And while you are at it, take the time to talk […]
How to Divorce Someone Suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)
One of the greatest challenges that can face a married couple or a couple in the process of getting a divorce is when one or both partners suffer from a mental health disorder. The issues that arise from the stress of marriage and child-rearing are complex for even the most emotionally stable couple. Adding a […]
Gov. Hochul Reinstates Older Judges
As reported in the New York Law Journal (link): New York Gov. Kathy Hochul has granted the return of four midlevel appellate judges to their original courts after they were ousted through a controversial austerity measure from Chief Judge Janet DiFiore and other top-level court officials. The Democratic governor has redesignated Ellen Gesmer, David Friedman, Sheri […]
Financial Stalking: Another Frontier in Financial Abuse
Keeping tabs on how you spend money is an abusive power play. Financial stalking is the notion that one person continually checks on what another is doing with their money without permission. The goal of the abuser is to manipulate, intimidate, and threaten the victim through finances and to entrap them. Financial abuse often occurs […]
Why “recoupling” can be more dramatic for your children than divorce.
Children often require time to process and adjust to the changes divorce brings into their lives. Introducing the prospect of a new relationship into the mix can be extremely challenging for children, no matter how old they are. Consider that with recoupling, there may also be new “siblings,” a new home, new routines, and of […]