Manic Spending Causes Anxiety, Particularly During Divorce
Here are legal tips to protect yourself and your finances. KEY POINTS When in the midst of a divorce, there are ways to legally protect your finances from a spouse’s over-spending. Cancel joint accounts, consider a postnuptial agreement, and keep documentation of the spending patterns. Talk to a mental health professional and ask your spouse […]
Bored Panda: Husband Lashed Out At His Wife In Front Of His Family For Buying The Cheapest Thing On His Wishlist, Said She Ruined Christmas
I was quoted in a recent Bored Panda article about financial abuse. A husband lashed out at his wife because she chose the cheapest item on his Christmas wishlist. I give readers tips to gain financial independence in the face of financial abuse: Lisa Zeiderman, a New York Divorce Attorney, wrote that “controlling the finances can mean […]
When Co-Parents Disagree About Vaccinating Their Children
The Omicron variant is raising the stakes, again. As most are well aware, the CDC has approved, for emergency use, the Pfizer vaccine for COVID-19 for children ages 5-11, which means more parents are making decisions about whether to vaccinate children in this age group. Virtually every day, I hear from divorcing parents who disagree with their co-parents on […]
10 Tips To Protect Your Clients’ Separate Property In The Event Of Divorce
As a matrimonial and family law attorney, I am often retained by people who came into the marriage with significant assets and, or inherited large estates. Under New York law, these assets will constitute what is known as separate property and will not be shared with the other spouse. But what happens to those people […]
The Holidays Are Here: What Newly Divorced Co-Parents Need to Know
The first holiday season after divorce or separation is often the hardest. Particularly if there are children involved, divorce will affect the holiday season for all of you — including changing many holiday traditions. Changes may mean not having your children at your family’s traditional annual gathering or waking up on Christmas morning without your […]
Tips For Female Breadwinners Overburdened At Home
According to the Journal of Family Issues, breadwinning women spend a disproportionately higher number of hours on household tasks and child care. In a recent article by personal finance expert Stacy Francis in Kiplinger’s Magazine, I share that one of the top reasons couples get divorced is because of money disagreements: “Lisa Zeiderman, a divorce […]
9 Considerations for You And Your Co-Parent as You Navigate Child Therapy.
Children processing a divorce in the midst of the COVID-19 pandemic can certainly benefit from seeing a therapist. Keep the following tips in mind. Here are some basic rules of the road for choosing and dealing with your child’s therapist: Before you enlist the help of a therapist(s), make sure your co-parent approves of the […]
New York Courts May Soon Be Raining Cats, Dogs and Perhaps Parakeets
The new state law raises many issues including what consideration should be given to the allocation of resources with respect to pet custody, when people are waiting months and sometimes years to have their child custody cases determined.
Financial Stalking: Another Frontier in Financial Abuse
Keeping tabs on how you spend money is an abusive power play. Financial stalking is the notion that one person continually checks on what another is doing with their money without permission. The goal of the abuser is to manipulate, intimidate, and threaten the victim through finances and to entrap them. Financial abuse often occurs […]
Parental Alienation vs. Realistic Estrangement: Which Is It?
5 signs that might indicate your child is a victim of parental alienation. In some families, divorce may be coupled with a child having an extreme and seemingly inexplicable rejection of a parent. Parental alienation is the rejection of a parent without legitimate justification whereas realistic estrangement occurs for good reason. Signs of alienation include […]